Tag Archive: ADHD

No doubt that you have read that the Federal Government is lax in its responsibility to enforce laws that empower those with disabilities. And I am sure you have run into block walls when seeking help for your child’s education. The schools will only do what they see as pertinent to your child’s education regardless of what you think is important. Unless you do it in writing and you have a doctor to back up your demands. Yes, self advocacy is key in the academic future of the ADHD, dyslexic, and autistic scholar. To make sure your children get what they need for their educational success you the parent must be proactive and either be an advocate for your child or find an advocate for your child. Clearly in today’ society with all the academic institutions in fear of being sued they would rather keep you in the dark instead of helping you find the help your child needs. They say they will help, say they will look into it but they will never produce any results. Read as much as you can on the subject of Advocacy and follow this website Wrightslaw, and arm yourself with knowledge because knowledge is power.

For instance, did you know that your child has the right to extended testing times? Did you know that your child can have someone read to him in order to take a test? Did you know that a doctor demand a tablet for your child’s use in school. Tablets help children who have reading difficulties because of ADHD, Autism, and Dyslexia to learn to read. Because of the programs available on the tablets that highlight words as they’re being read to the child, and allows the child to type his or her answers and then hand them in printed. All these things are advocacy tools for your child. But you won’t get them if you just ask you have to arm yourself with the means to get what your child needs. A reader by Intel, a iPad by Apple, a tablet by Android whatever the tool if you need it to help or think it will assist your child’s learning you have to get a Doctor to request it in writing then you yourself have to request it in writing in conjunction with the doctor’s letter. That is why I say learn all that you can about advocacy. Several reading materials that you might consider reading would be: Bright Not Broken by Diane M. Kennedy and Rebecca S Banks. Two mothers who found that advocacy was key as well. Also Driven from Distraction by Dr. Edward M. Hallowell, MD., and John J. Ratey, M.D., can also help you find information to help your child reach their goals. If you live in the Western States there is limited assistance because of the lack of knowledge of these conditions here. It is catching up but there still isn’t the kind of information and help that can be found on the East Coast. So be an Advocate for your child you will not regret it.

On April 12, 2011, Governor Jan Brewer signed into law that will help children who have learning disabilities to get tutoring, private lessons, online courses, education at home, or even college classes while they are in High School there are some restrictions and guidelines you will want to learn more about this law. This law is in response to the voucher law that was passed and then struck down by a higher court as unconstitutional. Here is the link to the bill and law: http://www.azleg.gov//FormatDocument.asp?inDoc=/legtext/50leg/1r/bills/sb1553o.asp&Session_ID=102

Teenage Angst

My ADDer Teenager

Teenagers are such amazing creatures they change from day-to-day and are so resilient.  Those teens that have ADHD have a tough time of it with these changes.  Not only are they changing physically they are also changing mentally are already dealing with the differences they have from others and now have to deal with their own differences within themselves.  This can be a real struggle because not only do they have a hard time understanding others, they have a problem understanding themselves, and often times the concept of personal space. Remember that in the teenage world personal space is new territory they are learning what is acceptable and what is not. Conversely, ADDers often times missed the memo on personal space.

ADDers don’t understand it and don’t understand why others are so put off by their efforts to communicate or be friends.   Teens are just embarking on a new frontier one that will enable them to emerge as adults with their own minds and own attitudes.  Peer pressure is huge and so is the need for acceptance in this time period and for the ADDer the problems are amplified.  We as parents must be able to see this for what it is and expect that what they are feeling is so much more than what we felt at this age.  The self-doubt that can set in and fester is critical at this time so being supportive and helping them see the big picture is going to help them adjust.  Not only do they need guidance during this time, but they need a life coach, or other mediator too! Of course we want to be that life coach or mediator and we should be, however the ADDer needs more than a parent they need a peer to help with the coaching because only a peer who is ADD or understands ADD can really help the ADDer understand his own emotional roller coaster and journey.

Parents mean well, often times if there isn’t a real relationship already built there it will become strained when the ADDer thinks that they are being judged, or feels embarrassed because how could a parent even understand about how they feel.  As I said before it’s amplified beyond what the average teen feels.  Thankfully most parents of ADDers have been doing it for sometime and understand there are differences.  The average ADDer has a mind speeding at light speed and it takes medication, Biofeedback or serious meditation to slow it down enough so the ADDer can consider what it is they are feeling, thinking, or saying.  And knowing this is half the battle with all ADDers not only the teenage ones.  If you have a teenage ADDer consider this when they tend to be way out-of-bounds or more uncontrollable than usual.  They don’t understand what is happening so you have to be the guide and find ways to help them help themselves.  Group settings with others who are ADDers helps immensely, having a life coach as I stated before helps too.  And as always having a parent who understands is paramount to the success of the journey of the ADDer who is a teenager.  You can find life coaches, group programs, and literature through Dyslexia International, CHADD, and even SARRC.  Here are some links that will help.  http://www.autismcenter.org/vocational.aspx#35, http://www.interdys.org/, http://www.interdys.org/ these are just a few there are more and research will you find what you are looking for in regards to the individual needs of your ADDer.